How to Tell Your Toddler You're Having a Photoshoot (Without the Meltdowns)
Planning a photoshoot with your toddler can feel like preparing for a tiny, adorable storm — unpredictable, emotional, and full of energy. But here’s the good news: with the right approach, your little one can actually be excited about it!
As a motherhood photographer, I’ve seen firsthand how a bit of preparation (and a lot of love) can turn even the wiggliest toddler into the star of a beautiful, joy-filled session. Here’s how to gently and effectively tell your toddler you’re having a photoshoot—and get them on board with it.
1. Keep It Simple (and Fun!)
Instead of saying, “We’re going to take professional portraits in the countryside,” try something more playful, like:
“We’re going on a little adventure with someone who takes pictures of families having fun!”
Using words they understand — like “adventure,” “playing,” or “pictures” — makes it feel less formal and more like an activity they’ll enjoy.
2. Show Them What It Looks Like
Kids are visual learners. Show them a few photos from a past session (see my portfolio). Say things like:
“Look at this mama and her little one—don’t they look cosy?”
“We’re going to do something just like this!”
It helps toddlers understand what’s going to happen and makes it feel familiar before you even arrive.
3. Talk About What They’ll Do
Focus on actions your toddler loves. Instead of “stand still and smile,” say:
“You’ll get to run in the grass!”
“We might twirl, snuggle, or pick flowers together.”
“There could be a game where you get to chase me!”
Set the tone that it’s more like playtime than posing.
4. Let Them Feel Involved
Give your toddler a little “job” or decision to make:
Let them pick which boots to wear.
Ask if they want to bring their favorite stuffed animal along.
Invite them to help you pack snacks or pick a hair clip.
This creates ownership and makes them feel like an important part of the experience.
5. Be Honest About What’s Expected—Gently
Toddlers do best when they know what to expect. Keep it light, but clear:
“Someone will be taking pictures while we snuggle, walk, and play. If you don’t feel like smiling, that’s okay. We’re just going to have fun together!”
This reassures them that there’s no pressure—and that being themselves is more than enough.
6. Use a Time Frame They Understand
Saying “It’ll take about an hour” might not mean much to a toddler. Try:
“We’ll take pictures until the sun starts to go to bed.”
Making time relatable helps reduce anxiety and restlessness.
7. Celebrate Afterward
Let them know there will be something special afterward:
A trip to the park
Hot chocolate on the way home
Looking at the photos together later
This gives them something to look forward to and ends the experience on a happy note.
Final Thoughts
The best moments during motherhood sessions are never the perfectly posed ones. They’re the hugs, the laughter, the muddy knees and genuine smiles. Toddlers don’t need to “perform”—they just need to feel safe, loved, and included.
If you're booking a session with me, know that I approach every shoot with patience, playfulness, and lots of grace for tiny humans. My goal is always to create space for connection—not perfection.
Got questions about prepping your little one? I’m happy to help. Let’s make some beautiful memories together. 💛